Uncle Kathy, I'm so proud of you. You actually told somebody to read a scripture! That ain't like you. My prayers must be working! You really gave out some good solid advice this week. I guess we'll have to take you off probation!

Cause the webmaster Justin had been telling me we've been getitng e-mails complaining about your advice! Said we should put a disclaimer out incase somebody actually listens to you and goes to jail; then wants to file a lawsuit against us: "The views of Uncle Kathy do not necessarily reflect the views of the managemnet and staff of Sheletta.com". You know Webmaster Justin is white--he gets scared easily!

I can think of a few other scriptures that would justify a a$$ kicking but that would be wrong with the positive theme of this post. But if I can give a man's perspective, the reason he won't get some from his ex is because she is crazy and really would cause problems, which right now he can manage. He wants to but is too smart to blow up his house. No such thing as free sex with a crazy woman. If you ain't paying you are paying too much.

Craig, you ain't lying! No such thing as free sex with a crazy woman. Just ask my husband! He'll second your "emotion"!

Uncle Kathy, I was looking forward to you giving me permission to taking this chicks name! No but seriously, thank you for your advice. I really appreciate your perspective and take it to heart.

Dear Craig,
My man won't cheat because he knows he won't be working with nothing to cheat with after I find out.

Sheletta,
The reason I like your blog so much is because we think on the same wave length (might not be a good thing) and when you talk crazy people just laugh it off and think that you are joking-little do they know you are dead serious. LOL

U damn right girlfriend. Serious as a heart attack. My website is like birth control pills 99.9% accurate, truthful and dead on! People on my husband's job always say "Oh she's so funny. How does she come up with that crazy stuff?" He tells them "Well, it's pretty much all true! She ain't gotta make up nothing!"

That is why the statement if you are not paying you are paying too much. If Kobe would have got an escort he would not have had to buy the hugh ring to apologize to his wife. Most men get caught because they don't believe they will get caught. They go to the same motel or they will have numbers in their cell phone and the bill coming to the house. They might be on the computer and forget to erase the history. Men also like to cheat with the same person and be predictable. If you just want some on the side, geta prepaid phone, pay a bill or something to keep the mistress quiet, or pay cash for it. No, I am not speaking from experience for those of you who are wondering. I never cheated during my marriage but you do see other guys mistakes when they get caught.

Believe me when I say I will find out, all the games you mention can be easily figured out and I have probably seen myself or talked about extensively with a friend. The thing is, like you said, men are predictable. Every once in a while you get thrown for a loop and somebody go and try some new shit, but my thing is this, if you gonna put so much energy in having a sideline hoe, why don't you just leave.

There ain't no hiding from me. Hell, if I have a DREAM about something he get grilled to no end and I will be mad than a Mutha ALL day at him. It takes a special someone to deal with me.

I do not care what people say, not all men cheat. A lot do, but not all of them want an outside woman. Especially these days, cause outside women are less likely to play their "role".

I disagree, some men cheat not a lot of men. I think you will find most men a loyal in a commited relationship even if their wives are mad at them all day because they had a dream that the man cheated. I sure he looks forward to coming home so he can get blamed about something else he didn't do. Let me guess you also check his phone and smell him when he comes in the house. Do you beat him and call him Anna Mae when you food is not cooked also. Outside women play their role when the are paid to play their role. It is the guys who try to get something for nothing and the woman gets emotionally involved is when they forget how.

Craig, you trippin' now! But we women do have to be cautious and look out for warning signs. You can't walk around in a relationship blindly thinking "Oh he'd never do this..." cause as soon as you say that, he DOES! We trust our men, but we know a man is (quoting Chris Rock here) is only as faithful as his options! We gotta make sure y'alls options is limited! VERY limited!

Since you being all open and providing insight this morning Craig... help women understand something "Why do men cheat?". Is it the thrill of the chase?

Men will get phone numbers to satisfy the chase and never call those numbers, but some men cheat because they want some. Sex is only a physical thing to some men and they could do it with anyone as long as it is easy and they don't have to listen to any bull afterwards. Ever ask yourself how some women who are not exactly attractive or appealing in any way always have a man coming around. Without losing my man card if a man does not feel he is commited then he is not cheating but doing his thing. They will cheat on their girlfriends but when they marry that person they will not cheat again. Sometimes the woman is in a commited relationship with a man who is not. Now some guys are just dogs are like to do whoever when ever married or not. Of course, I have to add the disclaimer that I am not speaking from my own personal experiences.

Naw now let us get sometjing straight here, I aint abusive and he used to my dreams, and at the end of the day we will laugh about it. His phone ONLY gets checked when he act shady and that aint to often. And I do not "smell" him when he walks through the door.

But seriously, why do some men cheat? Honestly my opinion is that it starts at home. In past relationships, guys that I dated did not have a father figure at home and mom was dating too. This guy, however, his parents have been together for 40 years and have never even been seperated.

You are SO right. Before I met my husband, I had decided I would not date anyone whose parents were not still together--in a loving relationship! Cause if the parents are modeling the right behavior at home, then the sons are going to copy that behavior for the rest of their lives! Good sons come from good fathers! And a male child MUST have a full time dad at home in order to see what a man is supposed to do for a woman! I believe that with all my heart. My husband acts just like his dad, and I'm glad about it--because my father-in-law, Mr. B--is hard working, faithful, he takes care of his household and his chil'len.

I ain't a man, but I think what Craig says, at least some of it, is on the money. I don't know where Keith is today--to weigh in on this--or Parker from VA--and ANYBODY HEARD FROM WENDY? But ultimately, men are like chil'len, they are going to do what they can get away with. Sometimes, it's the thrill of the chase. But I disagree Craig, if you get a phone number you ain't gonna call it--if you got it--you gonna use it. That's like having condoms in the glove compartment and telling your girlfriend "I bought 'em, I ain't gonna use 'em." And she's alergic to latex! See, that's just wrong. Now if you're married and there are condoms in the glove compartment, then it's time for some slow singing and flower bringing!

That is like a man not getting married based on what the woman's mother looks like. There is a lot of people from stable long term marriages that when the husband dies his other family shows up at the funeral. I know guys who work at the railroad with 2 households in seperate cities. They have 2 mortgage payments and 2 sets of kids. Women back in the day used to stay married no matter what the husband did, the kids knew nothing about it, and momma never would tell. There is a lot of screwed up men and women that have both parents at home. Not everyone has the same idea of the role of a man. I have a friend who bases his idea of marriage on biblical principles, sounds good until you remember the bible was written in a time where women were seen and not heard. You can not get a woman to utter the words love, honor, and obey in her wedding vows today.

You got a point, but you have to agree that men need a good father around to help them understand what a man is supposed to do for a woman. Just today, Puffy AKA P Diddy AKA Puff Daddy said he can't really marry a woman and be a good husband because he never saw a man being a good husband to his wife. That's not his reality. I don't generally like the dude but I applaud him for being honest! Now, his baby momma must realize it as well and just move on with her life.

That's true, a lot of things I do at home reflect what I seen around Sheila Ann's house. A lot of men cheat because they refuse to communicate what they want. It's hard for men, in my opinion, to talk to women because it could be used against us. Yall have good memories. Anyway, that vulnerablity is multiplied when it comes to sex because men are supposed to be stone cold humping machines. They start seeing other women displaying what they want and boom, the temptation begins. You'd be suprised how a regular BJ will keep a man honest, seriously. I'm not saying that's all it is to it, but if you want to know the truth I think personally that's what creates down low brothas. No married dudes, again in my opinion, goes from liking females to males, it's really who's got the looser mouth. Just sayin...